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Stop #6 on the #BeingBrainHealthy #VirtualBookTour: What Would Happen if We Expected Everything to Go Right?

25 Oct

There are days when it is OK to just get through the day. It is not a flaw or a fault or a deficit to feel like you are successful when “all” you do is get safely from morning to night.

“All” is pretty big in those cases when you don’t have any reserve to draw on and cognitive power is in short supply. Getting through is not just good enough, it is a major accomplishment.

Then there are days when you have the energy to look beyond.

On Stop #6 of the Being Brain Healthy Virtual Book Tour I spoke with the amazingly positive and powerful Melissa Reyes, host of Ten Minutes in Tinseltown about so many things but in particular (and near the end) what might happen if we just expected everything to go right.

Imagine the power of expectations and imagine how you might change your life by shifting your perspective just a bit so that you are looking at how to make this next moment more worth living.

**Warning, even though the name is Ten Minutes in Tinseltown, the show is actually two hours long! I loved every minute of this conversation — even when I did not anticipate the fact that the sun would go down and I would, bit by bit, lose all natural light in the room!

That shift from fixing what is wrong and preventing bad things from happening to looking what you can to do live well and happily is oh so powerful!

How do you feel about shifting your focus and concentration on what you can do to make this next moment worth living?

When Are You Going to Get Better & Other Burning Questions About #BrainInjury

13 Oct

For the past two months I have been on this crazy Virtual Book Tour to promote my new book Being Brain Healthy: What my recovery from brain injury taught me and how it can change your life.

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So, several times a week I hop on SKYPE with a podcast or talk show host and we talk and talk and talk. Each one is a bit different and all have distinct flavors and colors. In truth, I am having a blast.

Consistently though, each host wants to know one pretty specific thing – how long did it take to recover? Each time I laugh – not because the process of healing is a funny topic (although it has its moments) but because I am not sure that day, the one where I wake up and say “I’m better now”, will ever come.

Recovery does not have a finish line – few people wake up one day exactly as they were before the assault on their brain. The key to living successfully on the other side of a brain injury is finding, adjusting to, and living your new normal.

That is tougher than it sounds and not just for the one who had the injury but for everyone around them and everyone who interacts with them.


I have been told that it is difficult to look into the eyes of someone you know so well, recognize them on the outside, and watch behavior changes – good, bad, or indifferent. We are not talking about horrific changes, just changes – ones that result in words and behaviors that don’t belong to the pre-injury person. These are things that make you not recognize this as the same person because their actions and reactions don’t match what you expect.

It really is all about finding that new normal and that hinges on perspective, attitude, patience, support, and time.

As my husband said to me recently, this journey does not have a recommended speed limit. He is right. There is no hurry.

I do know there is no tape to break at the finish line nor a ticker tape parade marking the end of beautifully fought battle. I just know that I am different and that my new normal is great place to live. That, for today, is quite enough.






I would love to hear your stories about your new normal or the new normal you see in someone in your life! Please share in the comments or write me an email:


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