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The Power of Two: Creating a Partnership in Healing

14 Aug

We are stronger together.

I know that sounds a little trite, over-used, and a bit corny. None-the-less, there is no question that healing after a brain injury / stroke is smoother with help.

Possibilities open up because help provides:

  • Two perspectives to understand what is unfolding in front of you both.
  • Two heads to figure out where the path leads.
  • Two sets of eyes to see obstacles before they trip you up.
  • Two hearts to find the laughter and love to move through the day focused on quality.
  • Two sets of intention to make today the best possible day.


Think about this: Navigating the recovery path is challenging enough with a fully functioning brain – one that is firing on all cylinders.

When that thinking goes off course or it is difficult to pay attention to all the details, that path gets more challenging that it simply should be.

Two perspectives, two heads, two sets of eyes, two hearts, and two intentions – stronger together….

Powerful healing comes when a survivor and their caregiver join together as a team.

Powerful healing comes from a place of mutual support, deepened understanding, and a shared path.

Powerful healing comes when someone has your back.

And that powerful healing goes both ways.

This piece originally appeared on

When Are You Going to Get Better & Other Burning Questions About #BrainInjury

13 Oct

For the past two months I have been on this crazy Virtual Book Tour to promote my new book Being Brain Healthy: What my recovery from brain injury taught me and how it can change your life.

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So, several times a week I hop on SKYPE with a podcast or talk show host and we talk and talk and talk. Each one is a bit different and all have distinct flavors and colors. In truth, I am having a blast.

Consistently though, each host wants to know one pretty specific thing – how long did it take to recover? Each time I laugh – not because the process of healing is a funny topic (although it has its moments) but because I am not sure that day, the one where I wake up and say “I’m better now”, will ever come.

Recovery does not have a finish line – few people wake up one day exactly as they were before the assault on their brain. The key to living successfully on the other side of a brain injury is finding, adjusting to, and living your new normal.

That is tougher than it sounds and not just for the one who had the injury but for everyone around them and everyone who interacts with them.


I have been told that it is difficult to look into the eyes of someone you know so well, recognize them on the outside, and watch behavior changes – good, bad, or indifferent. We are not talking about horrific changes, just changes – ones that result in words and behaviors that don’t belong to the pre-injury person. These are things that make you not recognize this as the same person because their actions and reactions don’t match what you expect.

It really is all about finding that new normal and that hinges on perspective, attitude, patience, support, and time.

As my husband said to me recently, this journey does not have a recommended speed limit. He is right. There is no hurry.

I do know there is no tape to break at the finish line nor a ticker tape parade marking the end of beautifully fought battle. I just know that I am different and that my new normal is great place to live. That, for today, is quite enough.






I would love to hear your stories about your new normal or the new normal you see in someone in your life! Please share in the comments or write me an email:


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