It is important to talk about re-centering as a part of brain health. Not just because it is hard to think, process, and problem solve when you feel off balance but also:
- because some days your heart will wobble;
- because every now and then you will lose your way or question your own motives in a deeply profound way; and
- because your body’s systems, including your brain, depend on you pulling out of the things that pull you down — so you can function at health promoting level.
I felt the need to go back to my core this morning and went back to a piece I wrote a couple years ago. It was so important for me to go back and check in with each and every one of these guiding values. It is staggering how on days like today that I can re-center just by thinking about and trying to live what I learned from my mom. Pivot with me a bit….
What I Learned From My Mom
In 1972 my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer and was not expected to survive the year. I was 12 years old. In 2007, at 47, I stood in front of a room packed with people whose lives my mom touched in those stolen 35 years. Her wisdom, passion, and intensity filled our lives and shaped who we all became.
Here, in a nutshell, is what I learned from, with, and because of my mom:
1. Dignity, self-respect, and quality of life should not be reserved for the young, the healthy, and the fortunate — and should certainly not be limited by ability to pay for services.
2. It is our obligation to fight for those not strong enough to fight for themselves and an absolute privilege to a part of that process.
3. Do what you do because it is the right thing to do for the right reason at the right moment in time – not to hear thank you or for the awards or to see your name in the paper.
4. The balance of the world is very delicate so always give more than you take. Whenever possible, leave each place you go and person you meet a little better for you being there.
5. Books are for reading, learning, and cherishing – not banning, burning, or censoring.
6. Good grammar, good manners, and neatness always count.
7. We are all flawed. We all make mistakes. We all miss-step. Those who disagree with that the loudest are most likely the most flawed.
8. Never take away anyone’s choices. Our choices define our lives and no one has the right to rewrite our scripts.
9. Lead by example. If you believe in something, take action. If you wait for someone else to do it, it won’t get done. Actions truly do speak much louder than words.
10. Finally, all meals should include several vegetables of varying colors, a salad, a meat, and a starch.
Think well, live well, and be grateful for those moments because, in the grand scheme of things, they do matter.
It is a good practice to re-center and go back to your core — those things that drive you to do and be.
What drives you to do and be?